Thanksgiving is all about spending time with family and friends,
but it also comes with social obligations and
here to help us navigate holiday etiquette.
We're joined again by
Doctor
Jerry Sore,
principal consultant
at Jerry. So crew consulting. Welcome back.
Thank you so much
for having me.
So just like last time the chater team has plenty of questions for you.
We're going to start with senior producer, Joe. Let's take a look. She
will talk to you on the other side.
So I'm going to a friend's giving
for Thanksgiving
and they sent out a Google Doc to sign up for something to bring.
By the time I opened the dock, everything was chosen
the turkey, the cranberry sauce, the stuffing, everything is gone.
So I'm gonna bring a bottle of wine. But what's the proper etiquette of bringing
a dish that's not on the list?
All right, should guess,
bring a dish that requires of in space if it's not on the list.
Very good question. This is something a lot of us think about.
It's important for us to know that even though
that Google doc appears to be filled up,
everything is rarely taken care of if you are invited to a potluck,
make sure you come,
do not come rather empty handed. When in doubt, I recommend D and D drinks.
And we've already got that covered because he's bringing a bottle of wine
and the other d is a dessert. You can't go wrong with either.
The great thing about both of those is that they do
not require a lot of oven space so you're safe there.
Great advice. OK. Let's uh take a look at what our producer Tariq has to say.
So I'm the dad of two Children who are somewhat picky eaters.
Is it ok for me to bring food just for them?
Even though the host is preparing a whole spread for Thanksgiving?
All right, Sheri.
So at a big gathering, is it ok for hosts also to put Children at a separate table?
What do you think?
Oh, gosh, this is a tough one. This one involves a lot of consideration.
What I would say is a second question answer
first around putting kids at a separate table.
Absolutely.
It can be a beautiful thing, not just to have Children at a second table,
but make sure there's entertainment plan in advance of them,
hire a babysitter or designate someone in the family to be with them,
make sure they enjoy every things.
So they love the experience and in terms of having Children that are picky eaters,
you parents know your Children better than anyone. Yes. Yes. Yes.
Bring something special for them to eat. Let the host know in advance.
It makes them know that you're considered guest and
it gets us away from the hangar zone,
which none of us wanna be a part of that.
This is such great advice. We're not done yet.
Cherry, let's hear from one of our executive producers. Let's
ok. So I have some friends and family with some pretty strong opinions.
What do you suggest when it comes to
talking politics at the Thanksgiving dinner table?
I'd love to know.
My goodness. Are we related? I've got some family.
We are pretty strong opinions as well.
First things first is, uh,
remember we talked about consideration last time I was on the show.
Consideration is the cornerstone of etiquette and respect as the host.
It's your responsibility to make sure you recognize when conversations
are going off into an uncomfortable way and respond appropriately.
You wanna reel those comments,
conversations back in to make sure they are not about
those level two conversations that can be risky like politics,
dating religion, etcetera.
Keep them on things that can be, uh, inclusive where everyone can share pop culture.
Like you mentioned earlier, your favorite movie books, all of those are safe, some
good stuff. Ok.
Last but certainly not least, uh, Sherry,
one of our production assistants will wait in.
Let's take a listen.
I have a question.
How do you politely ask a guest who has overstayed
for a few hours to leave. Politely.
Sherry. What do you think?
Deep breath on this one bill? I'll tell you this one can be delicate.
The responses can range from being subtle to more direct.
First things first start gently clearing and cleaning. Now what I mean by that
keyword here is gentle.
No roombas, mops, etcetera, but just start putting things away if the lights are up,
start turning those down.
If the music is up, start turning that down.
So people can know it's a little, it's time for us to go and shift out.
And definitely when in doubt if you know,
you've got guests that are likely to want to overstay plan, a closing activity,
a closing photo,
a quick round robin saying what people are grateful and thankful for.
Remember, we wanna be cognizant of our impact on others and not overstay and not be,
this is fantastic advice this holiday season.
Thank you again to doctor Jerry Seo.