ESPECIALLY HARD ON CHILDREN
JOINING US NOW TO DISCUSS IS
DOCTOR HELEN EGGER CHIEF
MEDICAL AND SCIENTIFIC OFFICER
LITTLE OTTER WELCOME TO THE
SHOW. LET'S START WITH JUST HOW
STRESSFUL MOVING CAN BE FOR
CHILDREN TO BE EVENTUALLY FULLY
UNDERSTAND WHAT IS HAPPENING.
>> YEAH IT WAS
HE SAID.
>> MOVING IS STRESSFUL FOR
EVERYONE IN THE FAMILY BUT
PARTICULARLY
FOR CHILDREN THRIVE ON
REGULARITY AND KNOWING
WHAT'S HAPPENED. SO I THINK THE
FIRST THING IS BE TRIP PAIRED
THAT YOUR CHILD IS GOING
TO HAVE SOME BIG FEELINGS THAT
THEY'RE GOING TO FEEL SAD OR
ANGRY AND AFRAID. AND THE BIG
THING IS TO ACKNOWLEDGE OUR
CHILDREN'S FEELINGS TO GIVE
THEM SOME THE CORE
AND REASSURANCE BUT NOT JUST TO
SAY OH IT'S GOING TO BE SO
GREAT DON'T BE SAID HELEN A
LONG TIME AGO
I HEARD.
>> FOR THAT MOVING IS THE
SECOND MOST STRESSFUL THING IN
LIFE AFTER DEATH I DON'T KNOW
IF THAT'S TRUE BUT I WANT TO
ASK YOU BECAUSE I ALWAYS USE
THAT QUOTE AND WHAT ARE SOME
TIPS BECAUSE OF THAT BECAUSE OF
THE AMOUNT OF STRESS WHAT KIND
OF TIPS CAN PARENTS FOLLOW TO
HELP EASE THE MOVE FOR THEIR
CHILDREN.
>> WELL AS WE WOULD SAY THE
FIRST AND PUT YOUR OWN OXYGEN
MASK ON SO PARENTS SHOULD
REALLY FOCUS ON MANAGING THEIR
OWN STRESS AND SELF CARE WHICH
IS HARD DURING
THE MOVE.
>> BUT THEN WITH YOUR CHILDREN
IF YOU CAN TAKE THEM TO
YOUR NEW HOME TO THE NEW HATE
TO THAT YOU MAKE NAME FOR AND
WALK AROUND PLAY ON THE
PLAYGROUND. THIS AT THE SCHOOL
FIND A GREAT NEW BAKERY AND BUY
A TASTY TREAT TO SHARE. THIS
CAN
GO ON LONG WAY TOWARD HELPING
THE CHILD FEEL LESS ANXIOUS
IT'S ACROSS THE COUNTRY
GET PICTURES LOOK ON GOOGLE
MAPS DO WHATEVER YOU CAN TO
LEARN ABOUT
THE NEW.
>> PLACE THAT IS SUCH FANTASTIC
ADVICE KIDS AND EVEN ADULTS CAN
BECOME EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO
THEIR FAMILY HOME. SO I'M SURE
PICKING UP MOVING CAN BE SUCH A
HUGE CHANGE
FOR THEM. HOW DO PARENTS
EXPLAIN TO THEIR KIDS THAT HEY
EVERYTHING'S GOING TO BE OK.
>> WELL I THINK YOU CAN EXPLAIN
THAT WITH MORE.
>> WORDS, BUT WE
ALSO SHOW OUR BEHAVIOR AND OUR
EMOTIONS SO ONE THING IS FOR US
TO BE TO HAVE ROOM TO TALK
ABOUT THE CEILINGS
OF CHANGE AND FIND
OPPORTUNITIES TO GIVE YOUR
CHILD SOME THAT ROLE IF THEY'RE
GOING TO HAVE A NEW ROAD LET
THEM PICK OUT THE COLOR OF
THE RUM MAKE SURE THEY KNOW
THAT THE BOXES THAT ARE GOING
TO BE PACKED ARE GOING TO
BE GOING TO THE NEW HOME YOU'D
BE AMAZED CHILDREN CAN SAY OK,
I'M NEVER GOING TO SEE THESE
TOYS AGAIN AND ALSO I ENCOURAGE
PEOPLE TO MAKE
LIKE UP FOR BAD FOR YOUR CHILD
WITH YOUR CHILD'S FAVORITE
DOLLAR STEPPED IN ANIMAL OR
BLANKET OR OTHER
TREASURES THAT YOUR CHILD WILL
CARRY WITH HIM. HER ON THE DAY
OF
THE MOVES.
>> WHAT SHOULD PARENTS AVOID
DOING WHEN MOVING WITH THEIR
CHILDREN.
WELL THE FIRST THING I THINK IS
TO AVOID TELLING YOUR CHILD.
IT'S GOING TO BE SO GREAT AND
JUST TRYING TO CONTROL THEM TO
ACCEPT IT SO THAT'S THE
FIRST THING. I THINK YOU SHOULD
ALSO AVOID.
TRANSFERRING YOUR STRESSING
YOUR ANXIETY ABOUT THIS TO YOUR
KIDS AND I
THINK INCOME INCLUDING THEM IN
THE CONVERSATIONS MAKING SURE
THEY KNOW
WHAT'S HAPPENING AND I THINK
ALSO MAKING PLANS TO STAY IN
TOUCH WITH THEIR FEET AND SIR,
THEIR
LOVED ONES FROM THE
NEIGHBORHOOD SHOW THAT CHANGING
DOESN'T MEAN LOSING
WHAT YOU LOVE, BUT BEING ABLE
TO EXPAND AND THAT WORLD YOU
ALLUDED TO THIS A MOMENT AGO
THE PARENTS ARE STRESSED THE
KIDS. YOU KNOW THEY SEE THAT
THEY
MAY BECOME MORE STRESS AS A
RESULT IS THAT JUST AS
IMPORTANT FOR THE PARENTS TO
RELIEVE THEIR STRESS IN THIS
PROCESS AND HOW DOES THEIR
BEHAVIOR IMPACT THEIR KIDS.
>> THAT IS THE.
>> NUMBER ONE PIECE OF ADVICE I
WOULD GIVE
AND THAT IT'S SO HARD BUT FIND
TIME TO EXERCISE GET ENOUGH
SLEEP
GET HELP TRY NOT TO DO THE
WHOLE THING ON YOUR OWN AND
ALSO INTENDS TO PAY THAT THINGS
ARE GOING TO BE DIFFICULT
AND YOUR AND NEED TO BE ABLE TO
HAVE A LOT OF PATIENTS WITH
YOUR CHILD SO DO THE THINGS
THEY.
>> YOU NEED TO DO TO BE ABLE TO
BE REALLY.
>> PRESENT AND CALM WHEN YOUR
CHILD
NEEDS YOU.
>> HELEN TO UNDERSTAND THE
PSYCHE BEHIND A CHILD'S MIND
SET IN A PROCESS LIKE MOVING
IT'S DIFFICULT FOR US ADULTS
LET ALONE CHILDREN WHAT'S GOING
THROUGH THEIR MIND HERE.
>> CHILDREN EXPERIENCE FOR MOST
CHILDREN IN THEIR HOMES AS A
SAFE COMFORTING SPACE.
SO CHANGE IS REALLY
A DISRUPTION.
EVERYTHING THEY KNOW
PARTICULARLY LITTLE KIDS DON'T
IT MAY BE THE
ONLY HOME THEY'VE EVER LIST AND
AND SO IT REALLY BRINGS
SOMETHING SOCIETY ABOUT ARE WE
ALL GOING TO
BE TOGETHER IN THE NEW HALL I
CAN SLEEP WHAT'S GOING TO
HAPPEN. SO THAT'S WHY REALLY
TALKING WITH YOUR CHILDREN
EXPLAINING WHAT'S GONNA HAPPEN
EVEN ON THE DAY OF THE MOVE
MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A PLAN ON
WHO'S GOING TO BE WATCHING YOUR
CHILDREN AND LET YOUR CHILD
KNOW THAT SO THERE ISN'T THINGS
IOT E ABOUT WHAT'S THAT.
I THINK THE LAST THING I'LL SAY
IS JUST THE EXPECT YOU'RE
MORE OPPOSITIONAL BEHAVIOR
YOU'RE GOING TO
SEE SOME KIDS FOR THE REST THE
MORE BABY LIKE HAVE TOMMY ACHES
OR HEADACHES FOR MOST CHILDREN
THIS WILL PASS AS THEY GET
COMFORTABLE AND LEARN ABOUT
THEIR
NEW HOME. BUT IF THIS LASTS FOR
MORE THAN A MONTH AFTER YOU
MOVE YOU MIGHT WANT
TO CONSIDER TALKING WITH A
MENTAL HEALTH TO BE ABLE TO GET
SOME SUPPORT H